Appreciation List

by Mark Sichel, LCSW

What do you appreciate about your mate? When was the last time you told your partner how much you appreciate them for their loyalty, friendliness, sensuality, competency, resourcefulness, strength, etc? We all need to feel appreciated.

Check off the attributes that embody your partner's inner qualities of being. Share this with your partner. Include it within the body of an email or sit your lover down and TELL them in words what you appreciate about them. Do it over a romantic candlelit dinner or do it in the car on the way to an engagement neither of you wants to attend. Use this list of qualities to extinguish the flames of an argument or to enhance a special occasion like a birthday or anniversary.

These are the qualities that I appreciate about my partner:
Loyalty
Friendliness
Generosity
Appreciation of others
Appreciation of nature
Competence
Resourcefulness
Artistry
Thoughtfulness
Perseverance
Strength
Experience
Determination
Physical fitness
Sensuality
Lovemaking abilities
Sexiness
Stylishness
Taste
Expressiveness
Discretion
Warmth
Sensitivity
Empathy
Gentleness
Compassion
Precision
Intelligence
Intuition
Diligence
Creativity
Imagination
Humour
Dependability
Devotion to family
Devotion to career
Devotion to nature
Devotion to environment
Integrity
Ambition
Whimsicality
Talent
Flexibility
Handiness
Insightfulness
Softness
Curiosity
Foresight

Add to your partner's unique inner qualities of being as well as their outer qualities of doing, if you like. Remember things they have done for you in the past that you appreciated. Let your partner know that you remember his or her past kindness and thank them for it. Recognize and acknowledge their achievements and abilities. We all need and want appreciation and acknowledgement and this exercise will help you get closer to your partner.





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